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5 Reasons I Don’t Want Any Christmas Gifts

I have always been a bit of Rachel from Friends about getting gifts, if it’s not on the list I hope it has a receipt kind of deal. This used to make me feel hugely ungrateful, however, as I have grown older I have come to the realisation of where this attitude stemmed from.

I Hate Waste

This is one of my biggest frustration in life; whether it is food, packaging, money or time, waste really aggravates me and Christmas is one of the number one culprits. It does not matter how much we try to stuff ourselves silly, leftovers always end up in the bin. The amount of ribbon, wrapping paper, boxes and labels used, to make packages pretty for a few seconds are then hastily ripped open and discarded. The time battling Christmas crowds and then spending money on finding that perfect gift (which in my case are mainly unused or given to charity) is hugely wasteful, not to mention stressful!

I Know I Am Loved

Honestly, I don’t need anything physical to show me that I am cared for. I am in a lucky enough situation that I know I am loved, unlike so many others. Knowing this makes me feel guilty instead of joyful when opening piles of perfectly wrapped presents on Christmas Day.

I Have Everything I Need

I am in a privileged position where I have a good job that allows me to buy the things I want and I am surrounded with generous and wonderful people. This is very different experience to many where the festive period is not filled with joy and celebration but instead is a time of loneliness and isolation.

Even The Smallest Gift Can Make A Big Difference

Instead of another pair of novelty socks or a box of chocolates that are a fleeting pleasure those few pounds could really help people in need. Obviously everyone has their own personal reasons for supporting specific charities but here are some I will be putting my money towards this year;

Crisis where for £22.29 a place is reserved at a centre and homeless people are given three hot meals, including Christmas dinner, a shower, a change of clothes, haircut, health check, advice on housing, employment and an introduction to Crisis’ year-round services for training and support for the future.

Crack and Cider, where you can purchase useful items for homeless people in London.

The many charities who are providing varying assistance in the ever growing refugee crisis in Europe.

Save the ChildrenRed Cross EuropeMigrant Offshore Aid StationInternational Rescue CommitteeThe UN Refugee Agency (UNHCR)Refugee Action and also purchasing items from the Amazon Wishlist which will be distributed to those migrants at Calais.

Age UK help to spread the warmth in a time that can often feel lonely for older people by, through their Befrienders advice line and vital reach programme.

Mind offers support at a time when mental illness can feel particularly unbearable.

I also work for a military charity and know the importance of supporting serving and retired armed forces personnel and their families, however I feel that this is something that people already tend to have a personal connection with and there are also so many to choose from this post would last forever if I mentioned all that do amazing work.

Christmas Is About Spreading Goodwill and Joy To The World

If this is the true meaning of Christmas I think it is important to spread that further than our small circles and come together to support those that are vulnerable.

This is not at all meant to be a preachy post at all, as I know that we all have our own Christmas traditions that make the season special and that for many a large part of this is is about giving and receiving gifts. I just wanted to share my take on what the spirit of Christmas means to me, and that is simply hanging out with my friends and family.

Do you guys have anything on your Christmas list? What are your favourite traditions?


  1. Milli Grace says:

    I love this post Emma. Every year I buy my family a charity gift as well as a present – and I tend to buy experiences like tickets to the theatre or cinema instead of stuff now too – because I hate having so much stuff around that I never use! I hope you get many cards with donations to charity this year!

    1. Emma says:

      I also love giving experiences as it creates memories instead of just more things,

  2. Emily Thorpe says:

    You make a lot of really good points and given me a lot of think about! Really great post, I wish more people (myself included) were like you!

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    1. Emma says:

      Aww that is so nice of you, it was in no way meant ton make anyone feel guilty about how they spend Christmas just my personal thoughts. xXx

  3. Meghan Sara says:

    I totally agree with everything you’ve said! I am well-taken care of and haven’t room for any new things in my life. I just want to have a nice time this Christmas.

    1. Emma says:

      Totally but everyone thinks I am not being serious when I say for Christmas I just want to hang out

  4. Raj says:

    Such a brilliant post, and couldn’t agree more with all of these points
    Christmas should be about spending time with people you love, and just enjoying each other’s company, I always make sure to volunteer at Crisis homeless shelters and spend time just talking to people there over the festive season makes such a difference.
    Such great causes, thanks for sharing!

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    1. Emma says:

      That is so lovely of you to volunteer, as I am usually away over most of the Christmas period I haven’t had the opportunity to help out at a shelter but hopefully one day I can lend a hand.

  5. Leanne says:

    I agree with this totally. My biggest bug bear though is cards (both Christmas and birthdays) if I see you regularly I don’t need a piece of paper with a generic greeting on it to know you’re hoping I’ll have a good day!! x

    1. themayfairy says:

      But what about all the poor cartoonists out there trying to scrape together a living? This is their season to sell cards! 😉

    2. Emma says:

      I am not into generic cards but do love a hand drawn or well thought out bit of post popped threw the door.

  6. Claire says:

    What a nice post! I personally love to give gifts & send cards (often with a loooooooong note inside) – but I do this at other points of the year too. I’ve always been like that.

    I don’t, however, particularly want or need gifts for myself – like you I’m in the very fortunate position of being able to buy myself something when I’d like it (nothing too flash, of course, but I can usually scare up the money for a book or a gig ticket or a manicure if I’m madly in the mood for it).

    We’ve really minimised our wastage on food and what we call ‘tat’ gifts – stuff for stuffs sake – and instead give each other a little bundle of things we always like (favourite sweets, stationery for me, a selection of good ales for the Mr) which won’t clutter up the place and instead will be nice treats for the months of winter.

    One of my favourite parts of Christmas is volunteering and donating to the charities we support – a true blessing to be able to give back. I also like entertaining and doing nice things for a few of our neighbours.

    1. Emma says:

      Claire you are describing my ideal Christmas, it is all about being thoughtful and spreading love.

  7. themayfairy says:

    Thank you of letting me know about Crack and Cider – that’s really useful. I knew about the others x

    1. Emma says:

      My friend shared the link and I thought it was such an awesome idea.

  8. Coley says:

    I love this post. I thought this was an interesting perspective! I personally love receiving gifts but you make a great point – especially when there’s no thought behind the gifts and people are just giving them because they feel obligated.

    1. Emma says:

      As I said I am not saying that there is anything wrong in giving or enjoying receiving gifts, it is just not what I want from my Christmas. I am really glad you found it interesting. Hope that you have a lovely Christmas.

  9. is it just me or is the bauble image spelt wrong? cant tell whether it is or its just my eyes!

    looking forward to seeing you on saturday!

    1. Emma says:

      It is spelt wrongly that is why you should never send a dyslexic to do the Christmas shopping

  10. I totally agree- I hate getting anything that you know was bought just for the sake of giving a gift- especially as I only have a wee one bedroom flat and it’s not as though everyone I know is well off. My sister in law was stressing about buying a Christmas present for our baby- if he’s born before Christmas the oldest he’s gonna be is three weeks old, I doubt he’ll care! I do however send cards every year but they’re always charity ones 🙂 x

    1. Emma says:

      I just hate the thought of anyone stressing out its meant to be a joyous time of year

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